I was lying in bed this morning and suddenly I just started thinking about how all the roads I have taken have led me here. It seemed miraculous really. So I started thinking, what if all roads lead here? What if no matter what road I’d taken, I would end up exactly in this place. Exactly where I’m supposed to be. Lying in bed next to the man I love. What if no matter how much we screw up. How far off course we get, we still end up back home, meaning back with our Heavenly Father. What if?
It’s an intriguing thought, again this is just my opinion, and I’m not spouting doctrine here. But honestly, the thought came so clear to my mind this morning that all roads lead home. That was such a comforting thought to me. I think, well, rather I know that sometimes we all get bogged down in this quagmire of life and trying to live the gospel and do the right thing. Sometimes we get so focused on doing the right thing and following the path we think is the right path, that we forget there is more than one path. It’s true, there are many paths before us and sometimes we get so caught up in following someone else’s path that we forget we have a choice and can follow our own and that taking that path may not necessarily be wrong.
I know, that sounds crazy right, but stay with me here. If any of you have followed my blog you’ve been clued in somewhat to my journey. So what do I mean by taking another path might not be wrong? Well, if you grew up LDS like I did, you likely were told that there is one path, maybe not in that way but basically you probably got the idea you go to church every Sunday, you pray every morning and every evening and before meals, you read your scriptures daily, you get baptized at 8, you go to young women’s or young men’s meetings and all of the camps and functions provided. You graduate high school and go on a mission or go to college for a year and then go on a mission. You go to BYU! You then marry a returned missionary in the temple and you start a family within a year. Am I close? Yeah, that’s the path right? That is the only path that can get you back to Heavenly Father. Right? Wrong! Okay now before I start getting messages from people who did follow that path saying how wrong I am, stay with me. Your path was not wrong. I’m not saying that. I’m saying, that path isn’t the only path. I’m saying that for many people who chose another path, that their path leads to the same place. So I’m not saying your path was wrong. I’m saying your path isn’t for everyone and there are many path’s that will lead back to salvation and back to Heavenly Father.
So, I know, I kind of give Utah Mormon’s a hard time, for that I’m sorry. But, I feel like being a Utah born and bred Mormon that I absolutely have the right to point out some of the flaws. In other words, I’m not some outsider who never lived there. I grew up there. So, forgive me for being a little harsh here, but suck it up because while it doesn’t apply to every Utah Mormon there are enough Utah Mormon’s that it does apply to who warrant having it pointed out. Furthermore, if the idea that I’m pointing this out bothers you, you might want to ask yourself why you are offended by it. Is it because you are from Utah, or is it because deep down you know it’s true? Either way, it isn’t meant to be malicious, it’s meant to make people take notice of the fact that people are leaving the church, leaving the gospel because if you take a different path than the standard path mentioned above, people make you feel like you are less than worthy somehow. It is a real problem in my opinion and again, this is just my opinion. So if we as faithful members of this great church can recognize that maybe we get a little to self righteous, that maybe we get a little to judgemental, so much so that people would rather leave their faith than be in a church building with us, then maybe we need to think about teaching or speaking about the plan of salvation and about the plan God has for us in a much different tone. One that includes everyone and not just the one’s that follow the standardized path to exaltation.
Okay, so now that I’ve offended half of Utah, again sorry, but not sorry, let’s talk about how every path leads back to Heavenly Father. It really does because I can’t count how many different paths I’ve taken. Too many to count, and yet I end up here. I end up writing this blog and realizing for myself that Heavenly Father loves each and every one of us unconditionally. Think about what that means? Unconditionally? Meaning, he doesn’t care how we got here. I’m sure he shed tears for us and was concerned for us on our Journey, but the point is it is our journey. He let us find our own path for a reason. One could argue if I had taken the clearly marked path ahead of me with all the signs and followed the herd so to speak all the way to the pearly gates without deviating that I would have had a happier life. Maybe that’s true, maybe it’s not. We will never know. But I want to disagree, for me, I don’t think that my life would have been happier doing it the standard way. I really don’t. Because I wouldn’t have known what real happiness felt like, because in order for me to know what that felt like, I had to feel real pain and real sorrow and real regret so that I’d recognize it when it finally arrived. I had to take all those paths so that I would recognize the right one as the right one when I got there. I think this is true for more people than not.
All roads lead home because God did not design a plan where most of his children would be destined to fail. Heavenly Father is a genius of epic proportions. He is perfect in his love and he is perfect in his judgement and he is perfect in the plan he designed. So, the good news is that there are many roads home and most of us will likely make it there. Imagine that. Most of his children? That is a lot over the history since Adam and Eve and beyond. All of us will take our own paths, we will make our own ways, and some of us will figure out a lot of it here on earth but a lot of us will not until after we are gone, but the paths continue after we are gone, so even though we take some paths here, we will still be taking our journey after we are dead and this is where, all roads lead home!